In my experience, being a couple is a wonderful journey and it can be challenging at times. For me, what's frustrating is that some difficulties come back over and over.
We talk about it, look at them, make agreements, and even ask for help from experts, but guess what, after a while, they come back again. Sometimes even stronger than before.
Sometimes it doesn’t even matter the topic, once the discussion starts it can suddenly escalate to a conflict. This happens because it is the reptilian brain that deals with the conflicts, and until we train and connect both our reptilian brains they might keep clashing.
Imagine a safe container where you can create a deep connection with your partner, meeting them as if you were back being children, playing together.
An experience of innocent intimacy that involves body, strength, joy and soul presence.
This is what we offer in our Playfight events, and participating as a couple is a great gift that each individual can make to oneself and the relationship.
One can learn to respond in a mindful and embodied way to stressful situations. Something that you can immediately implement into your relationship. It doesn’t matter if you have been together for a month or 20 years. There are always some gifts one can get from Playfighting together.
What follows is the experience of Giulia and Daniel, a lovely couple who joined a Playfight event that I organised in Portugal. She discovered Playfight for the first time a few days before and after that, she decided to invite her partner to experience it too.
Already through the first warm-up games they could connect and have fun together but the real magic happened when she entered the Circle and invited him to Playfight together and Daniel accepted. What followed has been a wonderful journey of connection and these are Giulia’s words about it:
“After a few seconds, I could already sense in him certain laziness, an involvement that was not full. This began to create thoughts in my mind: is he having fun? Or is he just doing it to please me? I was very astonished when Matteo asked for a pause, and asked Daniel the same questions that I had in my head!
Daniel replied that he was holding back his strength so as not to hurt me and that he was not particularly enjoying himself. Matteo then proposed: that I could ask for a helper and thus be two against him. Daniel agreed. Needless to say, the situation unblocked from there with Daniel being able to bring out his full strength!
After a few minutes, Matteo paused again. After checking how we were feeling, he proposed to come back to be only the two of us and, for the remaining minutes to continue the Playfight with our eyes closed and, very slowly. From that moment the emotions began flowing leading us to have both eyes full of tears in the Ritual of the Appreciation.
After that moment of connection between us, we entered the last Ritual, the Feedback, and there I got another great surprise. I thought they were bored of witnessing such a complex Playfight. Instead, by hearing their words I realised that the emotions I felt had reached them too. As if we could feel each other in-depth, recognise our souls, love, difficulties and the will to overcome them.
It was an incredible experience, a ‘couple therapy’ that brought us even closer together.
Thank you Matteo, and thank you Playfight”
And you?
Is there anything that helps you to send in your power and not be adaptive? To be powerful and yet kind and loveful? Here are the next events where you can experience the transformative potential of Playfight.
Italy - Chiavari
4-7 of August - Immersion (focus: Relationship)
7-10 of August - Facilitator Training
4-11 of August - Advanced Training
Switzerland - Lausanne
13-14 of August - Playfight Weekend
France/Switzerland - Geneva
15-18 of August - Immersion (focus: Archetypes)
18-21 of August - Facilitator Training
15-21 of August - Advanced Training
Germany - Cologne
25-28 of August - Immersion (focus: Archetypes)
28 August-1 September - Facilitator Training
25 August - 1 September - Advanced Training
Portugal - Aljezur
13-16 of October - Immersion
16-19 of October - Facilitator Training
13-19 of October - Advanced Training
To know more visit www.playfight.org/events